At the inception of the Jedi Community, we had forums. That was it. Maybe you would exchange instant messenger handles or e-mails, or meet various people in a chat rooms at random, but our interaction was entirely limited to words on screen. Even voice chats were rare, and the technology was poor, and you might exchange phone numbers, but we did not all have our own personal cell phones to give out numbers to. Hell, I think we even still paid long distance at that point. Today, we have voice chats, we have video chats, we have multiple social media platforms, and offline meetings are rather commonplace (they were pretty much non-existent for the first three years I was around, aside from small individual level meetings, but even those were very rare).
Point is, we have all this exposure to each other and that makes it much easier to hold each other accountable. You can see if a person practices what they preach, or do they spend hours on end ranting about not talking about other Jedi behind their backs and being honest and truthful, and then turn around and talk about others? Do they preach about being healthy and then chain smoke, pour sugary drinks down there throat, and eat takeout for every meal? Do they profess themselves a leader, but display a thirst for the power itself, and then when presented with issues, prove themselves unable to properly address those issues?
It is easy to create a public face for yourself that appears to be ideal, but when you really peal back the layers, what you find can be disappointing. Much as I asked several months ago to ask yourself “Do I Really Want to Be a Jedi?” you should also ask if you really want to emulate a particular person. Not to say you cannot gain valuable information from even the most unlikely sources, but you need to be cautious not to also gain the damaging habits.
Now, I am not claiming to be perfect, and I am not saying that everyone is or should be. We all make mistakes, and we all have moments where we have lapses in judgement. The issue arises when you have a continuous pattern of lapses in judgement.
Even as students, you have a right to question those who are tossing their lessons around. Do so respectfully, but if you see someone doing or saying something questionable, ask questions.